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Feeling like I've lost myself in motherhood

  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ธ.ค. 2022

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  • Rachelle and Justin
    Rachelle and Justin  หลายเดือนก่อน +11

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  • Liz Regan
    Liz Regan หลายเดือนก่อน +232

    I am a grandma so listen very closely these are the best years of your life from birth until college. I remember that feeling like I was lost in kids, laundry and house. You have the greatest job you will ever have. Now that my kids are all grown up and even the grandkids are older now. When one of them walks through my door now that I am alone it is like a big burst of sunshine came into my house. If I could go back in time it would be the 80s and 90's when the kids were so small and needed me. Your job is not just a Mom, you are a wife, a nurse a driver cook and so on. The next time you have to describe what you are say Mom first then Jack of all trades. Take breaks during the day make plans with friends get a sitter once a month have a girls night. And you and Justin have a date night every single week, dinner movie or whatever even a walk. Don't forget you are also a video creator. Rachel you are so many things. Don't put yourself down for all that you are. God Bless and take care. Merry Christmas ⛄

    • Maria G
      Maria G หลายเดือนก่อน

      My heart broke and filled all at once reading this 🤍 thank you

    • yee yee 2022
      yee yee 2022 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I couldn't have said that better my self I so agree with you and that's the best comment ever

    • Dreamcatcher
      Dreamcatcher หลายเดือนก่อน

      Spot on!

    • Debbie Lopez
      Debbie Lopez หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well explained so very true. Always make time for you.

    • Rafaella Ioannou
      Rafaella Ioannou หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow. What u said to all of us that we are mums is like gift! Thanks for the wake up call. Merry healthy christmas

  • Letasha Tyler
    Letasha Tyler หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    You say you felt like you were losing yourself an as I watch the vlog I see you shine throughout all of what you’re doing you haven’t lost yourself you just evolved ❤ not only do you do your motherly duties you find time to craft and create and in those moments you are yourself live deeper into those moments it shows that you’re truly happy in that space being a mom doesn’t stop anything all it does is show how much more of an amazing person you have become #lovethe swanniefamily

    • Danielle Anderson
      Danielle Anderson หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m reading through the comments as I’m also feeling so displaced in myself (9 months post parting and have a 2.5 yr old). I LOVE you comment, it doesn’t help and actually makes me feel worse when people say take time for yourself and do the thing you love. It’s easier said than done. Your perspective is just exactly what I needed to hear! Thankyou

  • Dreamcatcher
    Dreamcatcher หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Being a mom of 4 adults ( had 4 in 5 years) I miss these days terribly… enjoy / breathe .. you are a beautiful awesome mom!

  • Angie Robinson
    Angie Robinson หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s great that you recognize your need to decompress before it turns into a worsening state of depression.
    Let me just say, when you described yourself as just mommy, I’m sitting here thinking yes she is a mommy a great one…also a wonderful wife, caring daughter, sister, friend. You are a crafter, a TH-clipsr, a dog mom 🐶 lol. An artist, and you make good, quality time with your kids. A seamstress. You are much more than just a mommy. Most importantly, you are a daughter of the Most High God! Excuse my long, run-on sentence. My daughter is your age with 3 kids, her baby just turned one. She gets very overwhelmed at times. Your doing a greet job!

  • Deyaneira Mora
    Deyaneira Mora หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I feel you. Major props to you because I only have one child and I feel like I’m barely surviving. I cannot wait for my son to start preschool so I can have a moment to myself before baby #2 comes in the summer. With my husband being in the military it is just me 90% of the time.

    • Deyaneira Mora
      Deyaneira Mora หลายเดือนก่อน

      Our realtor came over the other day and she was like tell me more about you, what do you like to do for fun, what do you like? And I had such a hard time answering that question. Like I don’t know myself anymore

  • Kim Cressman
    Kim Cressman หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It's important that you find me time! You love being a mother but we are human and we need to recharge ourselves so you can continue to be a good mom!

  • Emily Jacobi
    Emily Jacobi หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video was so relatable to me! I currently have a 3 mo old and my husband also has a crazy work schedule. I’m definitely trying to find more time for me and not get lost in who I am and motherhood. It’s such a gift like you said but it can feel tiring. Thank you for being vulnerable and honest!

    • Barbara Nelson
      Barbara Nelson หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Being a Mom is the most important job in the world

    • Charlotte Gunning
      Charlotte Gunning หลายเดือนก่อน

      Motherhood is exhausting yet all consuming. It's a balance n you'll find your way we all do. I think most of us feel like you do at some point You are an Incredible attentive entertaining mom n i love watching you n Justin and the kids negotiate life as you do! In my opinion you are a really good mom which is why I love watching your videos! Hang In there n Merry Christmas

  • Kathy Rivera
    Kathy Rivera หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I had 3 daughters by the time I was 23...27 months, 13 months and a newborn...you just dig deep and do it...we were very structured in our day...routine was necessary. My youngest will be 50 this year...I wish I could go back and do it again...

  • Rachel Kromka
    Rachel Kromka หลายเดือนก่อน

    After having my first child, I have felt the same way. I don’t know who I am anymore. In addition, I moved away from my family for my husbands job and I feel lost and defeated a lot.he works 3 days in a row and I’m by myself for those days with a 4 month old. It’s been hard and I hope one day I’ll find myself again and feel back to myself! Hang in there, we can all do this! ❤

  • Stephanie Ufkin
    Stephanie Ufkin หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sending you love mama ♥️♥️
    Having toddlers and babies is HARD.
    There are days that finding time for self care is impossible. If I get 30 minutes alone in the bedroom in the evening I feel amazing. Go easy on yourself!

  • dontduckwithme
    dontduckwithme หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are a great mom, but you are so much more too! Definitely invest in yourself and try to find moments to focus on you, even if it’s just 30 minutes to journal, or do a quick movement (yoga, exercise, etc), set aside travel goals, or just find a hobby you love. You’re an awesome person and a great content creator, and the feeling will get better!

  • Amber
    Amber หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Also I am terrified of the day all of my children grow enough to not need me. That’s all I have ever known, is motherhood. (I had my first child at 17) I know I’ll find stuff to do but I honestly find myself wanting more children just because I enjoy them so much ❤

  • diana
    diana หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feeel you on that! Take some time for yourself and don’t feel guilty for it! ❤

  • Meadowlark music
    Meadowlark music หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have to find time for yourself and not feel bad or guilty. You need to recharge. You are a wonderful mum!!💜

  • Ko
    Ko หลายเดือนก่อน

    "It won’t always be like this.
    I remind myself of this often.
    To help me see through the hard days, but to also pull me into the now.

    Because it’s true.
    They won’t always be this small.
    And I won’t always be this tired.
    They won’t always need me in this way. And I won’t always feel this lost.
    They won’t always come to me first.
    And I won’t also feel like I come last.

    This is a season.
    We will move through it together.
    And it will pass before we know it.

    It won’t always be like this.
    And my heart aches as I think about what it may look like.
    The first school drop off.
    The last kiss goodnight.
    The nights up late waiting for a call that doesn’t come.

    Because life will be different one day.
    And it won’t always be this tiring, messy, or beautifully wholesome.

    It will be watching from afar from a clean house, longing for them to come home for a weekend.
    It will be loving them through phone lines, messenger, and the kilometres between us.
    It will be losing myself in something new, to busy my mind from what I’m missing.

    It won’t always be like this.
    Not the hard.
    Or the beautiful.
    It will be a different hard and beautiful.
    We won’t always be like this either.
    We will age.
    And our relationship will evolve.
    We will be a different type of “us”.

    But this is my one chance at now.
    I only get to love them, be there for them, and be needed in this exact way, once.
    I only get to know this stage of motherhood like the back of my hand, once.
    I only get this time as we are now, once.

    This is it.
    I only get one Motherhood.
    And they only get one childhood.

    This time is ours.
    So I’m breathing it in, in all of its shades, Because it just won’t always be like this."
    📖 Words (Words of Emma Heaphy) and taken from the second book “Mother On” in my early motherhood.

  • janemschatz
    janemschatz หลายเดือนก่อน

    Be patient for soon they will be making their own way. I had 5 children and I. Kept my sanity by taking all kinds of fun college classes mostly one at a time in the fine arts. I learned to design and make custom furniture. My kids got right into some of it with me. I see you are talented and I hope you explore the adult side of your creativity. Your children will be happy if you are.

  • allaina cole
    allaina cole หลายเดือนก่อน

    We all go through it. Your doing amazing with your children. It gets earlier as they get older. Your boys will be going to pre school next year that will give you you time while Faya is asleep. I have 2 teens now and feel like they've grown up way to quickly. You haven't lost you crafty side and passing that on to your children. You have a new you a mother and wife. I find Christmas time hard to manage the kids are off for 2weeks the routine is out and the stress of Christmas ect. Bring on spring lol. Lots of love and hugs Allaina from the UK x

  • Louise Bourne
    Louise Bourne หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Rachelle, I understand that when my boys were little I felt exactly the same way it will get easier when Justin has time off try and find something you enjoy albeit being a Mum maybe go to the gym or go for a shopping trip with a friend or grab a coffee and don’t feel guilty for doing it xxx

  • Kim Cressman
    Kim Cressman หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love your crafts Rachelle!!!

  • Mom Of Boys X3
    Mom Of Boys X3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’re doing great. ❤

  • Angela Williams
    Angela Williams หลายเดือนก่อน

    I understand how you are feeling. Today all I did was cook, clean, go grocery shopping and take care of a sick kid. I’ve got 3 kids. 16,10 and 6. It’s hard to find time for yourself, but sometimes even just 10 mins in a bubble bath helps recharge! You’ve got this!!!!

  • Haylee t
    Haylee t หลายเดือนก่อน

    I hate that you’re feeling this way rachelle, but it’s really nice to hear from someone like you who rocks motherhood like it’s notning, that you also feel like the rest of us. I see you mama.

  • Bethany Cognion
    Bethany Cognion หลายเดือนก่อน

    I felt like that for about a year. But my issues were also surrounding lazy argumentative people, so mine was really feeling like a maid and not a friend or a family member.

  • Jordan Petersen
    Jordan Petersen หลายเดือนก่อน

    I understand completely! I have 3 littles at home and my identity right now is Mom. I have zero time for my old hobbies right now but I know it won’t last forever. That’s a hard thought on those long hard days though

  • Fernanda Cestari
    Fernanda Cestari หลายเดือนก่อน

    i know it might sound weird and i apologize if it does, but you’re doing great and i watch every video of you just wishing i had had a mom like you..

  • Lulú Invinkelriet
    Lulú Invinkelriet  หลายเดือนก่อน

    Drop off it's been hard over here too, things I tried that kinda work were having a chat on the car like "i know saying goodbye it's hard for you, we miss you too when you are at school." And after school we have a chat about what we did that day.
    In the days that are more hard, I offer to put some of my perfume or daddys perfume so she knows we are still with her ♥️

  • Barbie Dahl
    Barbie Dahl หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Rachelle.. it's very important that you and Justin have date night and time for yourself. Being a perfect wife and mom can over Wilhelm you. Please take heed and have a girls date with you best friend. I love you take care of you as you do everyone in your household. Big warm hugs.

  • peachezandsumcakez🎂🍑
    peachezandsumcakez🎂🍑 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Each season is something with being a mom from birth til they leave home 💞 then they leave home and we will miss them ! . My son is 8 years old 💓. But it's all different variants of change and seasons of being a mom either you have way too much going on or you don't have enough going on like your bestie . I don't think I've ever felt lost just go go and go some more .

  • Mya DuVal
    Mya DuVal หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just came here to say I lost myself and now I’m finding myself again it’s hard but we’re all here for you I’m some way ❤

  • Betty Foster
    Betty Foster หลายเดือนก่อน

    My son is 2 1/2 as well and he dumps toys out and then walks away! 😂

  • Tearose Gumaer
    Tearose Gumaer หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just had my first and I can totally understand your frustration. But try and remember that this is the GREATEST calling you have as a woman; to be a wife ( FIRST ) then a mother. The Lord made this beautiful design for us, and made us to be able to do it well. But it’s up to us to remember that; try and find your identity in the LORD and what He has called you to be . Being a wife and mom is ment to humble us, it’s the most selfless job out there. If you can put : Jesus, Justin , kids , others , yourself. Then the Lord will be able to care for YOUR needs. It’s so hard sometimes I know… just become a bond servant to God and He will give you the greatest sense of worth you can ever feel. You are those kids whole world. Maybe we are meant to loose our self for our family. Because if i really thought “ I need this “ then my baby would die because I literally wouldn’t get out of bed. Or sit and not feed her. It forces us to get up and live a active fulfilling life. You will find time for you and that’s ok too. ❤

  • Kaylee HIll
    Kaylee HIll หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can't believe I've been watching since rachelle found out she was expecting Bryn

  • Caro
    Caro หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Especially for a mom with 4 small children, I don’t know how there is enough time for oneself. I would not be able to do that, they are in such an important stage, and they they do much attention, it’s basically impossible to give yourself what you neeed.

    • Shock Resistor
      Shock Resistor หลายเดือนก่อน

      I could not handle that well. I dont even see the appeal.

  • Denise Anderson
    Denise Anderson หลายเดือนก่อน

    Rachel I can relate all anyone have is moment's but you can't take care anyone till you take care of yourself ☺️.

  • Pamela Uribi
    Pamela Uribi หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well you know me and my comments. I agree a lot with Liz’s comment. I’m 61-almost 62 and I do miss having little kids and all the fun and chaos that goes with that. But I don’t want to minimize your feelings either. Having 4 little kids is a lot of work! And you take that job very seriously. I think you’re such a great mother. It’s so obvious how much you love your family. But I do think your a lot more than just a mom. You’re a great daughter, sister, sister-in-law, friend, youtuber, wife. And you’re tough and strong, you’ve been through a stillbirth and burying your first child, infertility, so many things! And you’re still standing and thriving. I just watched a whole program on sleep. And it’s one of the easiest things (and FREE) we can do for our health. It allows our bodies and minds to repair and rest to come back and fight another day. Sleep, drinking enough water (WATER-even though I don’t like water I’ve been trying hard to drink more) are really simple things each of us can do to help our bodies. So you’re on track with pursuing a good nights sleep. I have an app that’s similar I think called Loóna. Take care.

  • Sky Emmons
    Sky Emmons หลายเดือนก่อน

    I also clean my playroom twice a day my kids get bored and don’t want to play with anything or get frustrated if it’s still in the mess they left it in before quite time lol
    I also just need to do it cause it does feel mentally better having it cleaned up in the afternoon as well ❤️

  • S Osburn
    S Osburn หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am a empty nester now. My youngest are now moved out and I'm having to figure out who I am since I'm not taking care of kids anymore. My existence feels strange. I feel lost and it gives me a lot of anxiety. One day I will remember who I am.

  • Livingston Levi
    Livingston Levi หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hey I'm the first comment, sending love and peace to you and your family. God bless you all🙂

  • Crystal Modkins
    Crystal Modkins หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know it’s easier said than done but if you haven’t already start implementing that when they take something out they have to put it up before they take a different toy out. It will help you once they get the hang of it in you not having so much sometimes to clean up!!

  • Mrs. P
    Mrs. P หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have to say I live in south Orange County Ca., and your Dollar Tree has way nicer merchandise than mine does! #jealous 😂

  • Bridget
    Bridget หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The boys are also old enough to put their toys back. I taught my boys if you take it out then you put it up. Those baskets are easy for them to put their toys back in..

  • linda Doherty
    linda Doherty หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thats because you get used to having the two of you at home and now you are mum which is all I knew I did it all its what little people need

  • ANGE K
    ANGE K หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your not just a mother, your a wife, a home maker a house keeper, a cook. Your also a vlogger, a content creator, a promoter of products. Your many things ! You just need to remember !

  • Maria Castaneda
    Maria Castaneda หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dnt forget your a young girl who wants to be free to live your life it's hard I know but dnt forget you

  • Kara Lewis
    Kara Lewis หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your a mom of 4 small kids, you have a puppy austrialian Shepard and a cat, you enjoy making things from scratch especially around holidays or birthdays, you like coffees and donuts, you love spending time with friends and you are a follower of Jesus❤

  • Shannon W m
    Shannon W m หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I babysit my grand kids and when I clean the toys I make them help and we do a 10 second tidy and they have to pick up 10 things

  • Jo Finney
    Jo Finney หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love those bells !!

  • Cindi Allain
    Cindi Allain หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m trying the app you suggested. Might I suggest you have the children help you pick up at night. They aren’t too young. I have my grandson who is 1 to help pick up the toys. I give him 1 job and the basket. He does pretty well. I will add as he grows. My 4 year old grandson learned the same way. He helps his brother too.

  • Amanda Nicole
    Amanda Nicole หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I absolutely feel the EXACT same. Our kids are pretty similar in age. I have a 7, 4, 2, and 5 month old. I have said the same thing “I’m just a mom, I don’t know who else I am anymore.” It’s been really hard. I miss date nights with my husband, I miss having alone time, I miss sleep. My 2 yr old has severe asthma and has had 16 hospital stays since 7 months old. I feel like my whole life is just them. When we get together with friends there’s nothing new to talk about my life except stuff with the kids. My 5 month old still wakes every 2 hours too which doesn’t help.

  • Janet Robichaud
    Janet Robichaud หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is one thing that could help is to get the boys before quiet time to pick up after themselves or each other. They are old enough to help you..

  • D Smith
    D Smith หลายเดือนก่อน

    You should talk to your kids about playing with one toy at a time and tell them they have to put it away before they get a new one out.

  • Jessie1102
    Jessie1102 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have a 10 and 12 yr old and now that they have friends and dont need me to take care of them, like when they were young, i feel lost too! Im only 35 and feel young but its like now what? Im a stay at home mom, thankfully… but same girl

  • Megan Pratt
    Megan Pratt หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes! Well I actually enjoy just being Mom, although sometimes you do feel a little like you lose your personality. But it's always under there! I find it again when I do things I find the most fun. Our kids are 12, 10, 7, 4 and 11 months. What annoys me more is when other people say something along the lines of "is that all you do?" Yes, it's ALL I do. Most people would never say something like that. It's just the people that don't want kids or are out of touch. I've gotten more confident about it. These people definitely have a way of getting under your skin though. Don't listen! You are doing one of the most important jobs in the world! Find that time to decompress 💕

  • Marisa
    Marisa  หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Not knowing you outside of TH-clips, I would say you're a work from home mom and that your job is content creation. You enjoy painting and doing different crafts and arts. You prefer creating memories and experiences over spending on "things" and when your life is calmer that includes traveling with your friends and family.
    Being family orientated isn't a negative. It's hard to not sound "boring" but you most certainly do have plenty of things beyond just being a mom. I remember the vlogs where you went to those wine and paint things, game night with friends, Hawaii!, different trips. When Justin was deployed you made the most thoughtful and loving care packages for him! Caring it's just who you are and you make it look so easy! You have 4 toddlers and it may seem so small but you took the time to make that bell and hang it. You didn't go buy something already done for 10x the price, you chose to be creative and it worked and looks really good! I think many of us who fall into the more artsy categories struggle to explain who we are when put on the spot! I'm artsy in a different way. I love poetry and writing, I enjoy reading and learning about pretty much anything! 💞

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  • Kaykee's Corner
    Kaykee's Corner หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everything you described is how I feel! I just have one kid but we homeschool so it's a lot!

  • Kate Cox
    Kate Cox หลายเดือนก่อน

    Think of it this way. Currently you are a mother. That's your main job you have 4 little ones. It's okay to only be a mother. You do other things with your you tube channel so it's ok. Your life will change again when the kids are bigger. Don't think you have to be super mom. Most of those women have a nanny or someone else watching their children. Except for Kimberly Wadsworth she's got her husband and her kids are older and at school. Things constantly change. I am retired but I raised a son for 4 years alone till I met my husband. Worked outside the home 36 years and now I am taking care of my grandson like I am getting the chance to see the first 4 years I missed as a single mom.

  • Kimber Cosmos
    Kimber Cosmos หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So I have one child and recently at 3 and a half I realized my whole life revolves around my kiddo. Especially since covid and shut down ect… I feel like I have forgotten me.
    Lately I’ve been working on things that are just mine. Not as wife or mom, but just me. I’m so glad you are noticing you again and how you feel and I really feel like this should be talked about more. Years pass before you realize it. Hugs to you!

  • Angelica Veliz
    Angelica Veliz หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a mom of 3 I can totally relate to loosing yourself in motherhood. Last time the doctor asked me what my alone time my me time was and I was like whatttt is such thing😅. Love your videos ❤

  • Amanda Nixon
    Amanda Nixon หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just enjoy it before you know it they will be in their 20's

  • Mama Nyakio & Fam
    Mama Nyakio & Fam หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have started to love going to the gym for an hour or hour 1/2 and that’s my time alone and time to decompress- also just finding small time, going to get my nails done or even just running errands by myself ❤

  • CreativeWindow1
    CreativeWindow1 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes of course when I had my boys and I would forget that I could go back to school or to something for myself, and I would get overwhelmed, in just being their mother. When I went back to college, it helped me find more of myself again.

  • rlross49
    rlross49 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think I need to tell that COLD weather requires a winter coat over a sweater, not just a light weight sweater! You are spoiled! LOL I live in a state that can get really cold and feet of snow. COLD weather is usually at least around freezing and many times below zero. Do you even have a real winter coat? I’m just teasing, I don’t want you to think I’m being nasty. I love watching you and your adorable family! I do think you probably need some time to yourself. I just don’t know how you do it. I had two daughters and had to work full time. I don’t think I could have handled more.

  • Ko
    Ko หลายเดือนก่อน

    My daughter has 4 children like you, with quite a bit more space between them. I have witnessed how amazing mothering 4 is, inevitably it will be and is overwhelming at times. Documenting and sharing your journey is an encouragement, hope you receive as much support as is possible, take time out, accept life will continue to have its ups and downs.... treasure the golden days, edit out the difficult ones. You are growing a wonderful forever family, thousands of blessings await you ❤️

  • Leelee Waters
    Leelee Waters หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel ya! I'm a single mom and a full-time student. I was reborn 2 years ago, and God got me out of a bad relationship. I know what it's like to lose your personal identity. I feel like all I do is be a mom and study, then crash at night. Remember, it is just a season. I don't know how I'd get through this without God. I'll pray for you❤️

  • Shian Cuttitta
    Shian Cuttitta หลายเดือนก่อน

    I totally understand that lost feeling. I allowed myself to entirely focus myself which is totally fine but never put time aside for myself. He's now almost 7 and I'm going through the journey of finding things that I love again. It's hard but it's a work in progress. You got this mama 💜

  • Dolly Time
    Dolly Time หลายเดือนก่อน

    I used to be the same staying awake at night, when my kids were little. Its a bit of me time you miss. Loved the bell decoration you made, looks great.

  • Danielle Hutton
    Danielle Hutton หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love watching your adorable family, your an incredible mum and Justin dad. Could you make it a chore for Emma and the boys to clean the toy room up, as they make the mess it would make less work for you to do.

  • Lila
    Lila หลายเดือนก่อน

    I totally understand that feeling of being consumed by one thing and not knowing who you are outside of it! I felt that way when I was going through my mental health crisis. Its almost like you are so focused and engaged in one area of your life for so long that you have no idea how to come back from that! I have also heard other mothers say the exact same thing. It can be hard, especially as a mom, (for me, I don't have children so I am just taking care of myself which can be hard at times) but it is so good that you are aware of it, and not getting too stressed about it. that's when it gets overwhelming

  • Kathy Everman
    Kathy Everman หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My youngest just turned 21, my odest is 38. Trust me when I say, the days are long but the years are short. It passes by so fast. You're doing the most important job in the world and you're doing a great job. Praying is the absolute best thing you can do for your peace of mind.

  • Karen Saurage
    Karen Saurage หลายเดือนก่อน

    I always put some toys low and some high to play with on rainy cold days. The toys they dump and leave on the floor put high. What they play with leave low. You will miss these times I promise.

  • Jessica Winkler
    Jessica Winkler หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think part of personal growth involves hitting the "I don't know who I am" phase and then figuring it out. If Justin has a regular off time try going once a week or every other week and try a painting class or pottery class. Find different activities to try and see what sticks. You can also do this for fun date activities.

  • Cynthia ****
    Cynthia **** หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a mom to 1 child who is 11yrs old. Being a single mom causes me to also be just a mom if I’m not working.
    The one thing my mom has reminded me is that I was a woman first, before a mom.
    I still, don’t know how to describe myself or tell others about myself. But it’s the peace in those little moments. Little moments of breaks and times to just BE. You’re doing great Gurl 🤍

  • Mama Nyakio & Fam
    Mama Nyakio & Fam หลายเดือนก่อน

    We don’t have a dishwasher and sometimes a messy kitchen goes unnoticed because at night I need time to sit down and think- sometimes you have to just stop what your doing and do you no matter what the house may look like lol if that makes any sense

  • Carbie
    Carbie หลายเดือนก่อน

    Its time to start the cleaning game all 3 are old enough have them help you… Even sing the silly song with them soon you can just tell them its clean up time and they will do it with out your helping.

  • Simons Party of 5
    Simons Party of 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have 3 kids and pregnant with my 4th when the baby comes I I I will then have a 5.5, 3.5,2.5 and newborn I’m a stay at home mom and all I know is being mom I have 1 person who watches my kids and that’s only if I have a doc appointment for this baby

  • Michele Dalton
    Michele Dalton หลายเดือนก่อน

    I remember that time frame in life. But rest assured, you always look naturally beautiful :)

  • Victoria Hazelgrove
    Victoria Hazelgrove 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When you said you have a really hard time falling asleep because there is no time in your day to decompress--I feel this on so many levels! This is my daily and has been for a few seasons now. I’ve tried to explain this to my husband, but he processes differently than me. Sometimes I stay up late watching my favorite vloggers (ie you!) because it’s the one time in the day I can do something just for me. I will say historically it’s been a season for me or period when it’s worse as a mom than others. Any transitions tend to make it worse typically. Just wanted to say, I so appreciate your rawness in this one. I often feel like I’ve lost myself a little these days and you are not alone!

  • Cheryl S
    Cheryl S หลายเดือนก่อน

    Welcome to Motherhood!

  • Chris DeRouchey
    Chris DeRouchey หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve been a SAHM for almost 21 years now. My youngest is 8 yo and in 3rd grade. I’ve struggled with finding what works best for my family: trying to work from home, or do I find a job outside the home. I recently decided that I’m not going to feel guilty for “just” being a SAHM. I’m blessed my husbands income doesn’t need for me to work. I’ve also spent the majority of my adulthood home with kids so trying to climb the corporate ladder is just not feasible or even something I want. I’m going to be content and not feel societal pressure to bring home a paycheck. I will volunteer and be a successful SAHM. ❤

  • Debbie Kotch
    Debbie Kotch หลายเดือนก่อน

    Ah the joys of Motherhood, I remember them well. the lack of sleep. All well worth it.

  • Anupa De Gazon
    Anupa De Gazon หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have lots of young kids too..one being 3months...also another 2yrs...there's some that is older..I've felt that feeling 2 months postpartum...I starting taking care of myself and I am seeing a big change. I'm doing my hairs, getting my hair done etc...it's been helping me overcome everything

  • Linda Gentile
    Linda Gentile หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love your artistic ideas Rachelle...
    Merry Christmas to you all...
    GBY with Peace, Good Health & Happiness throughout the Holiday Season...
    Sad there is no P.O. Box posted to send you all a Christmas card...
    So... Merry Christmas 🏡🤶🧑‍🎄🎁🎄☃️🤗✝️

  • Leana Goosen
    Leana Goosen หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Children also need to get an example of a fullfilled mother. Never good to loose yourselve!

  • Julie
    Julie หลายเดือนก่อน

    It is totally okay to feel overwhelmed and need a break. Your feelings are valiadated. As fun and rewarding as it is to be a mom, it is also really hard. And with a ton of little ones running around and children schedules to maintain and holiday planning and the usual day to day. I have had this feeling before and i know I will have it again. We are human. We get overwhelmed. Things that others go enjoy this time you will dream about this time one day can make us feel inadequate and ungrateful and can give us guilt. But we shouldn't feel guilty. We should feel proud of what we can do and knowing when we need a moment.

  • Taylor Lumpkin
    Taylor Lumpkin หลายเดือนก่อน

    Rachelle I hope this comment finds you. Every day do one thing for YOU. Practical of course. Take a self care bath for you. Work out for you. Take yourself out to get breakfast for you. Whatever way you can in the life you have do something for you every day and you’ll see your sense of self be restored. Wish you the best love. You’re killing it

  • Vin Vlogger
    Vin Vlogger หลายเดือนก่อน

    You should do a day in the life with 4 kids 4 years and younger. That’d be cool to see.

  • BeatleBabe
    BeatleBabe หลายเดือนก่อน

    Psst - most of us who put on our makeup seemingly in the viewfinder also have a mirror that's not in the shot (well, some people show it lol) that makes it look like we're doing it in the viewfinder, but we totally have a mirror. It's hard, you're right, to actually legit do it in the viewfinder! Especially since for things with colors like blush or eyeshadow, the viewfinder has a tendency to lie about the true color of a thing at times, LOL. Just an insider tip!

  • Amber
    Amber หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are a woman who struggled with loss and have been blessed abundantly since. ❤ That is the most beautiful thing that you have shared here! Maybe take a date night with hubby or take a few hours and go get a manicure or pedi if that sounds nice, or massage. I used to go the gym when I felt this way.

  • Kamila
    Kamila หลายเดือนก่อน

    You can do it sis! Just shift the priority on yourself a bit. You are not only a parent but a human being that needs to grow. Your love for motherhood and the need for individuality can coexist. Find things you love and build around that It can be anything. I believe in you!

  • Debb liles
    Debb liles หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a mom at the end of parenting our oldest child turned 18 now 19 our youngest 16 now 17 & i would cry cause its been me as mom & then me fighting a chronic illness crps so it is just ok now what or what comes next or who am i cause its been so long! So its crazy feeling!! So yes keep who you are as something you know! 🧡🌺🎄🙏🏼🎄🦋🧡

  • Cathy Darby
    Cathy Darby หลายเดือนก่อน

    My me time was sitting out side with my Bible and books while the kids played and not feeling like had to be interacting with them outside. This can happen while baby is napping and also if he can even let you go to bed even every other night when kids do and you can have that time to do what you like before ready to settle in to sleep

  • Geraldine Acosta
    Geraldine Acosta หลายเดือนก่อน

    You need to make it a game to get them to clean up. That your not always doing it

  • Sister Wendy
    Sister Wendy หลายเดือนก่อน

    Saw a youtube video from a doctor ( motivationaldoc),said to drink warm milk with tumeric in it, sleep like a baby ..
    I did this just after my open heart surgery and it worked, slept like a baby

  • Brenda Chaves
    Brenda Chaves หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Rachelle and Justin

  • Terri McCullough
    Terri McCullough หลายเดือนก่อน

    For me once I accepted that the kids WERE my life it was easier to navigate. These times are temporary and one day you will wish to have them back.

  • Cindy Martin
    Cindy Martin หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sign up for Walmart + and the In Home service.....when you need anything they deliver it REAL quick! It has been soooooo nice to not have to go into the store to get odds/ends ....just order and it's on my front porch before you know it 😊

  • Bible Ambassadors
    Bible Ambassadors หลายเดือนก่อน

    You'll have time to study God's Word and when you do, you will know who you are.

  • Debbie Rudolph
    Debbie Rudolph 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When are the boys going to preschool? I have a 3 and 7 year old grandson and we always have a clean up time when they clean up their room/playroom. They both also put their dirty washing in the basket and generally clean and tidy up. We are teaching them good values from when they are very young. The 3 year old will wipe down the table and put dishes in the sink. Help make his bed etc. He is very proud of himself.